As an empath, the hardest thing for me to witness is someone with a broken heart. I wish no one ever had to feel that level of grief and pain. But, then, if no one ever felt heart ache does that mean they would also never actually feel the depth and fullness of real, pure love? That would be so much worse.

It has been my experience that the healthiest relationships are between people that each worked to resolve their emotional baggage before they became committed. Unfortunately, this isn’t the case with so many couples. Whatever the situation, it almost always comes down to the root of one or both persons not being truthful with themselves about something or another in their past. Personal pain comes out at the worst of times, sometimes as an uncontrollable weapon of hurtful words and/or actions aimed at those we love we most.

The blame game does nothing for anyone, whether blaming yourself or someone else. Blame only perpetuates anger, shame and resentment and prevents proper healing. Thus, the cycle of unhealthy relationships continues.

The truth is that if a person has done the work to heal properly from old wounds, they are likely self-aware and self-respecting enough to not get involved or stay involved with someone who is neither self-aware or self-respecting.

No matter what happened, mending your heart with forgiveness is the best step forward for YOU.

You will clear away the negative energy and open the door to attract a much happier and healthier relationship in the future. Maybe that relationship is with someone else, or maybe it’s a better relationship you will have with yourself.

My prayer for you, dear friend, is that you may know love in its purest form, both giving and receiving.