Preaching to the Choir

We’ve all heard the term ‘you’re preaching to the choir!’ In other words, “Why are you talking to me? Talk to someone who doesn’t already know, like that guy over there who has obviously never been told not to wear sneakers with dress pants.” Oh, how quick we are to judge each other! Let me…

Self Righteousness

Is it self righteous for one to say he or she is not self righteous? Could be. I think if one is truly not self righteous then they don’t have to say it to try to convince people of it. Not going to lie, I slip into self righteous mode sometimes. It’s awful because I…

Forgiving Yourself

How many of us feel ashamed of something in our past? My guess is all of us. Did you know that shame is the lowest emotion on the scale of consciousness? When I was a child my mother would say often, “Shame on you!” I doubt she knew just how effective that was. It took…

Forgiving Family

Family is our first teacher. This is where it all begins. We spend the first several years of our lives being conditioned to the rules of our caretakers, community and society, then we spend the rest of our lives in therapy trying to understand and be understood. I am the black sheep of the family…